#1 Reason She Faked Her Orgasm: To Please Her Partner
It’s the most common reason she said she finished when she really didn’t: Women can tell their climaxes make their partners happy, so they fake it to throw them a bone.
“Her orgasm can be a sign of satisfying sex for him because it shows that he did a good job,” explains Men’s Health sex advisor Debby Herbenick, Ph.D. “So she may feel pressure to orgasm if she feels it’s something he’s looking out for.”
#2 Reason She Faked Her Orgasm: She Wasn't That Into Sex
Ouch. Many women faked orgasms because a real one was out of the question.
“Women cannot easily say ‘I don’t enjoy this,’ says Monika Stelzl, Ph.D, who has previously studied why people fake orgasms. So she may think that telling you the sex wasn’t good for her would be more hurtful than faking her way through it.
#3 Reason She Faked Her Orgasm: To Boost Emotional Communication
It might not be a physical thing: Some women faked them as a token of love or appreciation for their partner. Again, possibly because they feel like it would make their guy feel better.
(And no, asking her if she had an orgasm is not a good way to boost your sexual communication—here’s why you should never ask that.)
#4 Reason She Faked Her Orgasm: It Feels Good
Like we said, not all reasons why she faked it are bad. Some women took a “fake it til you make it” approach, imitating orgasmic faces or sounds to make sex hotter. (Or you can save her the trouble and try these 33 sex tips to turn her on.)
#5 Reason She Faked Her Orgasm: She Felt Insecure
Not everyone’s comfortable being honest about their orgasms—or lack thereof—so some find it easier to just fake their way through.
So ask her afterwards how the entire experience felt for her, says Herbenick. Ask her what turned her on most, and what she may have wanted to try instead.
#6 Reason She Faked Her Orgasm: For Manipulation or Power
A small but significant portion of women faked it to gain control over their partners. But before you decide to distrust women over that, consider this: The manipulation/power motive was more common for guys.